A while ago I was at a Logan fireside when I met an older MoHo who repeatedly lamented, 'I wish I'd known about this [support system] earlier" (he was quite new to the MoHo scene). His frustration echoes back to me when I see guys my age who are likely Family--one fellow in particular. 'Does he think he's the only one, as many of us often have?' I wonder.
Maybe he'll marry a woman and wreck a family (or perhaps, have a successful--if difficult--marriage). Maybe he doesn't see 'the relation' yet. Maybe my gaydar's completely off and I could end up humiliating him. Maybe he'll suffer needlessly, not knowing of the options and support available to him. Maybe he'll spend half his life in denial. Or, maybe he'll end his life.
The ice is so thin here I suppose the only thing I can do is be a good friend, eventually come out to him (if it feels like the right thing to do), and leave the ball in his court.
And if some of you are questioning my motives, I assure you they are pure, though the thought did cross my mind...