tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post8795260683489056638..comments2018-02-17T23:26:12.392-07:00Comments on Scarlet's Letters: Frustration...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-86961465481473099252009-10-28T08:27:16.297-06:002009-10-28T08:27:16.297-06:00I'd be happy to talk to your dad and let him k...I'd be happy to talk to your dad and let him know of my experiences if that would help. Maybe he and I could do lunch or you could join us if you want. I join Chris in saying that marrying doesn't change orientation. I don't anticipate that my orientation will ever change, but that doesn't mean that I can't function successfully in society or even in a family, though that may not be possible or a choice for others. <br /><br />I don't mind 'outing' myself to him if it would help you. Let me know your thoughts.Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-48239300202934170852009-10-28T07:14:53.816-06:002009-10-28T07:14:53.816-06:00I know I'm late getting in here but I wanted t...I know I'm late getting in here but I wanted to make sure that you knew you had all the support of us out here. <br /><br />There are a couple points. <br />1. Dating and even marrying good Mormon girls does not make it all "go away" I and many other guys out there would be more than happy to speak with your parents about this. It is a fallacy that the church has recognized.<br />2. It sounds like your dad could use some reading material. Start him out with the current church literature on the subject.<br />3. Maybe a statement to this effect would help him understand, "Mom and Dad for years you have asked me to rely on your testimony of the church and I have because I trust you, I trust you with my life. Now you need to trust me, trust that I have studied, fasted, and prayed to know certain things." <br /><br />It may not be enough to help them past the ignorance, but at least you will help them see your sincerity. <br /><br />Finally, if your parents would ever like to talk to other parents, I'm sure mine or several others out there would be willing to talk to them.<br /><br />Good luck and we'll be praying for you.<br />ChrisGood to be Freehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14997330087610802803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-12216982562843303322009-10-27T19:10:11.910-06:002009-10-27T19:10:11.910-06:00Thank you all for your comments and support! My t...Thank you all for your comments and support! My thoughts about how to respond to your comments has led to a new post.<br />Thanks again--you guys are the best :)Frank Lee Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11886437307154426730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-20327489744644052972009-10-27T11:45:12.099-06:002009-10-27T11:45:12.099-06:00Bravo. I wish I'd had your courage when I was ...Bravo. I wish I'd had your courage when I was a teenager. I'm actually going through a similar thing with my own dad right now, so I can relate. He's not quite as aggressive as yours but he clings to some of the same ideas. At least he's still talking and has invited me to educate him if I think he's missing things. I hope the same for you eventually. Hang in there, you have a lot of support from your other "family".<br /><br />And too bad about your doof of a seminary teacher. Just goes to show you that ignorance and bigotry must be fought constantly. And I agree with David; consider hanging around if only so you can call anyone else out if they try the same thing again. Quote Pres. Hinckley and tell them they are certainly not following the prophet, that should work.Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-1633896250197548242009-10-27T08:32:33.214-06:002009-10-27T08:32:33.214-06:00It angers me whenever I hear of a seminary teacher...It angers me whenever I hear of a seminary teacher, or any teacher in the church for that matter, teaching as doctrine the philosophies of men.<br /><br />Regarding your parents, it reminds me of a similar talk my parents had with me when I was just a couple years older than you. Only, the topic was my decision to join the LDS church. To say they were not pleased is an understatement - they too pushed me to date good Christian girls hoping it was just a phase and that I would eventually grow tired of Mormonism and quit. But, after serving a mission and getting married in the temple, they eventually came around and accepted my decision.<br /><br />I share this in hopes that your parents too will come around and eventually accept you for who you are. It may seem like they're overreacting now - but it's up to you to show them that gays are not the evil family and society destroying monsters that many make us out to be.Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-71445286417317995342009-10-27T07:30:55.207-06:002009-10-27T07:30:55.207-06:00Wow, I am proud of you for having the talk with yo...Wow, I am proud of you for having the talk with your family. I believe that ignorance is a huge factor in why so many GLBT teens commit suicide and coming out and letting those round you see that their words, their actions hurt not some far off image of "The Gays" but instead an actual human being... I believe that that has the power to change people. Personally I would urge you to stay in Seminary if only to speak up, but that is a personal call.David Baker-@DB389https://www.blogger.com/profile/09029208091840336879noreply@blogger.com