tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post3707520641163103195..comments2018-02-17T23:26:12.392-07:00Comments on Scarlet's Letters: Jan: Types & StereotypesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-85914404371741460082010-02-01T00:48:26.200-07:002010-02-01T00:48:26.200-07:00I've certainly felt pressure to act gay, espec...I've certainly felt pressure to act gay, especially around female friends who are in relationships and around flamboyantly gay friends. <br /><br />It's generally unintentional pressure, but it's still pressure.Matthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03156523925956642311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-75884889009543885132010-01-31T22:35:19.413-07:002010-01-31T22:35:19.413-07:00Over the years I've come to love the masculine...Over the years I've come to love the masculine and feminine ambiguities of gay people. I found that the more I accepted myself, the more okay I was with seeing a wider variety of gender expression in others.<br /><br /><i>It is true, though, that in some ways, out people have as much pressure to conform to gay stereotypes as closeted people to straight stereotypes.</i><br /><br />I don't buy this. There's no pressure to "act gay" when you come out, but there's A LOT of pressure to "act straight" when you're closeted! After you come out you get to be exactly the person you are inside, whatever that happens to be. <br /><br />People are saner and less afraid after they come out. This often gives them a <i>calmer</i> affect and reduces compulsive behaviors. They smile more.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.com