tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post3575065377042954634..comments2018-02-17T23:26:12.392-07:00Comments on Scarlet's Letters: MoHo MicrocosmUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-9415311203543061022010-04-30T20:24:41.674-06:002010-04-30T20:24:41.674-06:00Hey FLS you know me and I took your advice with th...Hey FLS you know me and I took your advice with the creation of a blog. And I just wanted to say that I really like the last quote. Thanks for writing.Butterflies and hand-grenadeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10567085718202928111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-29777964523870598472010-02-13T21:48:25.595-07:002010-02-13T21:48:25.595-07:00I'm all for coming out. My only caution here i...I'm all for coming out. My only caution here is whether coming out might influence your parents not to support you in college (I don't mean hugs; I mean paying tuition). As I've said before, if you are financially dependent on your parents, your coming out options may be more limited than when you are fully self-supporting.<br /><br />It <i>does</i> happen that parents who are religious conservatives retaliate against their gay children by refusing to pay for college. They sometimes even cite recent LDS conference talks that advocate "conditional love" (in essence, if God withholds blessings for disobedience, so can parents).<br /><br />I have no idea if this applies to your situation, but if it does, keep it in mind as you figure out how to proceed.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-26588407142456606482010-02-13T16:27:39.367-07:002010-02-13T16:27:39.367-07:00Thanks for your confidence in me, DDW. Your suppo...Thanks for your confidence in me, DDW. Your support means a lot to me :)<br /><br />Thank you for your advice, QS. That is definitely something to consider; however, over the past few months it has really become less a matter of questioning than denial, which I am past or at the very least almost past. But again, I will certainly consider that.<br /><br />AE, thank you for your kind words :) That really is a good idea and I will try to make sure I'm on the same page with m'folks. <br /><br />Bravone, thank you for your support. I realize being out could limit me in some ways, but I think it could liberate me, too, in others. Also, I am wary of being held to false assumptions, but I think the only way to expose these stereotypes for what they are is to come out and let people see that a homosexual is not the generalized image they have from society and the media, but their ordinary, tangible, God-fearing friend down the street. So my hope is that coming out could help to upturn the false assumptions so many people have. In any case, I'll let you know where this goes, and thanks for being there for me. I so appreciate you and everyone else who has been so kind and supportive :)Frank Lee Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11886437307154426730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-19292255986356133162010-02-13T12:29:16.964-07:002010-02-13T12:29:16.964-07:00FLS, Just have fun with the dance. There is no d...FLS, Just have fun with the dance. There is no deception going on. This time of life if for learning, growing, and having fun. <br /><br />Coming out: We have talked about this before, and I have advised you not to because of possibly limiting your choices. Only you know how you really feel about your sexuality and what you perceive as being your future options. <br /><br />Having said that, knowing you, and how much others respect you, my kids included, if anyone could pull it off and truly be an example for change, it would be you. If you do it, however, Quiet Song's approach may be something to consider. I would be sure to let people know what it means to you, and not let them pigeon hole you with false assumptions.<br /><br />Let me know if you are going to do it, and I will fast and pray for you. <br /><br />Much love,<br />BravoneBravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-74622522839895763872010-02-13T08:34:11.370-07:002010-02-13T08:34:11.370-07:00You are brave - probably far braver than I'll ...You are brave - probably far braver than I'll ever be. As always, I hope and pray for the best for you. <br /><br />My only bit of advice is to consider talking to your parents about your plans. Not necessarily to get their permission - but they will have to deal with the fallout of this as well. It just might be better for all concerned if they don't find out about your 'coming out' plans after the fact - when someone comes up and talks to them about their gay son.Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-1966230995893342612010-02-13T07:41:35.296-07:002010-02-13T07:41:35.296-07:00Dear Flees,
What you are experiencing is part of ...Dear Flees,<br /><br />What you are experiencing is part of our family's current daily existence. First, going to a school dance with a girl is simply that, a fun one time dance event and it sounds like your date has a wonderful encouraging family. Go and have a little fun and set aside your orientation issues for one night. Just relax.<br /><br />If you are going to come out, perhaps coming out as questioning is a better choice. Without going into detais, there are young men in my knowledge who thought they were gay or bi and less than a year later, they think they are straight. Others retain their questioning or gay status. Just my two cents worth from the frontlines.<br /><br />Quiet SongQuiet Songhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242291365616236005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-54654261890710481462010-02-13T07:22:52.172-07:002010-02-13T07:22:52.172-07:00You're so dang inspirational! I wish I had had...You're so dang inspirational! I wish I had had your courage when I was still in high school. It sounds like you're ready...go for it! Good luck :)darkdrearywildernesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13740281438409811684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-35953692353210087502010-02-13T01:10:47.048-07:002010-02-13T01:10:47.048-07:00Just edited for vanity, hopefully this post doesn&...Just edited for vanity, hopefully this post doesn't come off as quite so self-important now. Ugh!<br /><br />@Markus: I like that quote too, and thank *you*! I've basically just talked about this, but you actually walk the talk, so props to you :)<br /><br />@M. Curie: Thanks! I do hope to have a good time and just make the most of it.Frank Lee Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11886437307154426730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-7538622097149218192010-02-12T23:06:32.567-07:002010-02-12T23:06:32.567-07:00Great post. Very interesting - your perception o...Great post. Very interesting - your perception of the microcosm of the MOM. I wish you luck on your journey of coming out. I'll be here reading. Keep us updated.<br /><br />And enjoy the dance. You can just be friends and have a great time.Mister Curiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113134172902610883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351702185582985296.post-46015200994356388372010-02-12T21:16:31.777-07:002010-02-12T21:16:31.777-07:00Thanks for that quote there at the end! I've c...Thanks for that quote there at the end! I've come out to two friends now and i really feel like the next step in my emotional/spiritual development is to continue coming out to those i care about, except i've had a lot of fear about it. Thanks for helping me find some courage :)Loganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277032657203333082noreply@blogger.com